Pandora Parrot @pandora_parrot@beach.city

So a friend just told me about how someone shit on the ceilings and walls at her workplace so I decided to go on a stint researching how the fuck this happens.

Amidst serious questions about my life decisions, I learned 3 things.

1) Some people do this out of malice.
2) Some people do this as a combination of hovering while having explosive diaharea
3) A mess like this is considered a biohazard and companies cannot force you to clean it up without proper training.

Being able to do a great job respecting someone else's boundaries and needs is a skill. Learning how to avoid accidental pressure and coercion is also a skill. Not everyone has those skills.

I think that one need not be paranoid about this, or always on the lookout for it. More like... aware. And if you see these sorts of issues popping up... Take action.

The character of your workplace/partner/friend will be defined by their response to your calling out this behavior, I think.

In an abusive situation, love bombing is often followed by limits on that praise: "I will only continue giving you these love bombs if you do these things for me"

The abuser has their hooks in and is now drawing you in. Slowly you find yourself hurting yourself and destroying yourself just to keep getting those brief moments of love and praise that you got in the beginning.

It's a "frog boiling" situation. You don't know you're in it because it changes so slowly.

There's the initial love bombing that happens here. Telling you how amazing you are for joining this thing and that you are special for being part of it. You see this in relationships a lot.

Love bombing takes the form of utter excitement about a person. Sometimes, that can be genuine, but whenever someone or something new in your life is showering you with intense love, praise, etc... Be aware of yourself and your situation. It *can* be a prelude to abuse.

Reading an article about a Silicon Valley tech startup called "Away" that sells luggage.

https://www.theverge.com/2019/12/5/20995453/away-luggage-ceo-steph-korey-toxic-work-environment-travel-inclusion

Reading through this are so many classic signs of abusive behavior. Whether it's jobs, relationships, friendships, etc. I think it's so important to learn the signs so you can get yourself out of it. The worst abusers can get in your head and make you *crave* the abuse, making it hard to realize you need to get out of the situation you're in.

@pexl strong relate

@dragoness Congratulations! This is fantastic!!!!

I really don't like calling everything in a javascript application "index.js" because you're taking advantage of the fact that this is a reference to the folder.

With a bunch of different tabs open, I just see "index.js index.js index.js" etc.

@Lofenyy @dansup Oh I'm sure! But implementing artist side functionality is a pretty big project. It's not a simple add on to the existing music consumer focused interface.

@Lofenyy @dansup It's true. But I feel like it's hard to setup any kind of curated "artist landing page." What I'd love to have is a link where I can say "Hey, go here and check out my music" but it doesn't feel like it supports that very well.

@dragonbait1 It's definitely curvy. VERY curvy

@ak Yeah! It's a computer screen. I'm a big fan of multi-monitor setups, and this one lets you have the two monitors in a single device.

@mancavgeek It's $1K USD, It's basically two 27" 1440p monitors in one.

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