invisible minority status 

It's such a strange liminal space. To be marginalized and erased while still getting privilege from the very thing that results in you being erased.

To not be marginalized to the degree that folks with visible minority status face, but still be marginalized. And to be further marginalized BY that lack of marginalization, since it's harder to get support and community around those marginalizations.

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invisible minority status 

Another example are disabilities like my CAPD. I function as hearing 98% of the time, but when I don't, people are very unsupportive. I've literally had partners throw things at me because they were upset I "wasn't listening to them." I've had meetings with people that I could not function in. I don't have support on how to navigate this.

But most of the time, I don't need to. And I can switch situations easily and get back to functioning as hearing quite fast.

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invisible minority status 

An example I'm thinking about is my wife, who mostly passes as white and is treated as white by most people. But being latinx has resulted in her multiple times experiencing racism and discrimination as a result. Currently facing a loan situation that involves her being asked to state that she's a citizen for some reason.

But she's mostly cut off from her hispanic heritage because her mother chose to raise her as "white."

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Invisible minority status, like invisible disabilities, is a fascinating liminal space between privilege and marginalization.

A person who is perceived by the world as majority-class will have prvileges granted to them that people with visible minority status do not receive.

But they ALSO expereince various kinds of marginalization without necessarily having access to the support systems people with visible minority status get.

AND get erased constantly.

as of today, everyone is eligible for the covid vaccine in every US state, washington DC and puerto rico

covid burnout 

It just feels awful to see people living like there's no pandemic while we restrict our lives from things we desperately need.

Sure, to some degree, we have the luxury of doing that. We have a household of 5 and WFH-capable jobs.

But I'm not talking about people that hang with one person. I'm talking about people having massive indoor parties and stuff like that.

I don't care about outdoor stuff. All that's fine. But indoor socializing without masks... It's just frustrating.

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covid burnout 

Do you know that I still don't have a doctor to prescribe me HRT? Neither do my partners. Several of us need to go to the dentist and haircut and eye doctor exams, etc.

My wife and I went out to an unpopulated outdoor restaurant for the first time in a year yesterday, because we flew 2 states over to a place with very low covid numbers after being vaccinated for several weeks.

Here we are, and yet I still see people hanging in bars with friends without masks and stuff.

My new neighborhood has a bunch of Black Lives Matter signs up in front of houses. I like it.

I'm gonna be travelling back to the office July 12! Probably! It has yet to be set in stone, but I'm seriously considering it.

covid denier BS, uspol 

I really don't get the covid denier narrative.

"Covid is a fake virus with fake vaccines for which you have Trump to thank for the current rapid distribution and for preventing many deaths with his early actions against this extremely deadly virus."

LIke... is covid fake or real? If it's fake, how does all this Trump praise make sense?

Aaaaaaah.

People that respond to criticism of their jerky/asshole behavior by claiming they are free to do so is just a strange argument.

Yes, fine. You have this freedom. And I have the freedom to be very far away from you because you are an awful person.

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kink? 

I fucking love to be annoyed.

I cannot explain this. But I just love it when someone close to me annoys me and I get to complain loudly about it. It's the best experience.

My partner @coda will intentionally annoy me just so that I get to complain about it. It's fantastic.

The freedom to be a jerk or asshole has never struck me as a particularly noble freedom to exercise.

asking for recommendation/connections 

Fedi, can you help me find someone who is proficient with visual impairment accessibility tools? ideally, someone who actually uses them, but familiarity with accessibility practices is also okay. I'm looking for someone to "proofread" my two websites. I can pay, but not a lot. more context in the thread below.

covid 

Having our vaccinations kick into full effectiveness right now during the worst situation Michigan has ever been in with Covid is a very mix of feelings.

ableism 

I have a hard time thinking of myself as disabled. I'm autistic. I have diagnosed prosopagnosia and CAPD. I have a disfiguring autoimmune disease.

Because I have a lot of coping mechanisms and have done things to handle these things, I often don't really think of myself as disabled in any way.

But I am, I guess.

It's probably ableism that I struggle with the term. I have this ableist idea that "disabled" means unable to do things. I know that's not what the term means, and yet.

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It's minor inconveniences where it affects me, and I did several years of training to try to improve my ability to understand things, and it's been really good, tbh. For example, I can actually hear music now, whereas I never could really when I was younger. Sure, I "heard" it, but it was a massive confusing jumble of sound. It's only in the last few years since I trained my hearing that I could actually distinguish the different distinct elements of music.

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I remember going into a meeting in there and it being so bad that I told people to stop inviting me into meetings in there. Yet people did anyways. I remember the last time I went in there, I gave up and just attended the meeting. I could speak just fine, of course, but I couldn't understand most things anyone else said to me. It was so frustrating.

Similar thing can happen to me in bars and arcades and stuff like that. Someone could be talking to me, and I'll just forget they are doing so.

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CAPD is... weird. It's like there's this drop-off where certain situations cause my ability to comprehend what's being said to drop to almost nothing.

Sometimes... I think it's no big deal and never bothers me. But occasionally... I go into a room that I can't hear in, and I remember that I have this disability others don't typically have.

There was this one conference room at the office that I simply could not hear in. Something about the echoes would just confuse my brain.

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