(~) Meta on Abuse
Reminder that you, yes YOU can be abusive even if you aren't a Bad Person
We tend to think of abuse as something that only bad people do, but the truth is often more subtle than that. Abuse as a constant pattern indicates a bad person but we are imperfect beings.
Be sure that when you and someone else face a hard situation together that you aren't straying into DARVO territory, for example. Don't let yourself become someone else's abuser.