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there's no equilibrium state between queerness and cishetness. there's no set of 'real' genders or sexualities that could exist as stable counterpoints to the normative, heterosexual binary. queerness is a state of difference from the norm, and the norm exists thru and for the repression of everyone who falls outside it

Which is why i say “bi lesbians are real” not “bi lesbians are valid”. All I’m doing is saying they exist because they do. They don’t need me to tell them that they’re valid in order for them to continue existing, lol.

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I don’t think it’s bad to tell someone they’re valid, and i think a lot of people like hearing it; it’s more that i think our general focus on telling people that they’re valid makes us think that “what the community says is valid is OK” and conversely “what the community doesn’t say is valid is not” and i don’t think that’s a healthy mindset in general

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It means well but it is based on a concept that we have to seek validation from others or that we can decline to offer it if we so choose; neither are or should be true

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‪Alright time for my hot take on “validity” discourse. “Validity” suggests an authority that can either validate or invalidate who you are and saying “x is valid” reinforces the idea that this is a good thing that we should care about. ‬

Hey what’s up mastodon, I’m just here to say that bi lesbians are real and i just got blocked by like 5 people on twitter for saying so. Figured I’d try my luck over here

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PSA, autism, please boost 

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indie games made by straight people: "A desolate interactive dream about a man searching a mysterious island for the girl he once loved... or did he? I poured six months of my heart and soul into this. Please enjoy."

indie games made by queer people: "heres a game i made about a poly triad of neon trash skeletons who like to spray acid piss on fascists. made it in five minutes for ludum judum jammy jam 891. fuck off terfs"

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I'm not here to guilt anyone for taking space for their mental health, we all need to take care of ourselves now as much as ever. But consider that some people dont have the luxury of taking space. Some people (not white people!) are literally fighting for their right to exist. So kindly log off, spend the day drawing or give yourself a makeover or work on your car or whatever the fuck. But if you are asking protestors to riot quietly and hide information behind cw's were gonna have a problem!

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Just to expand on this - you dont need social media. I get that quarantine is isolating but you could start a private discord server, you could start your own instance here, theres so much you could do that is not trampling on the incredibly minimal platform bipoc folks have already. Instead of spending your energy policing cw's and tsk'ing popular celebs and personalities for using their public platform to promote change, just keep it your problem and deal with it accordingly.

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Ok well heres a take that isnt new

If youre tired of seeing black people mourn and express their anger log off social media and go outside. Go read a book and get some fresh air and think about the privilege you have to do so. Ive been silent on this issue because while i am a trans woman of color i want to leave space for my comrades on the front lines to share out and be seen and heard. If you are white, seeing and hearing us is your burden to bear on public forums. Need a break? Log off.

I would love PSO2 friends, FYI. I played a bit on Xbox when it launched there, but mostly on my own, and having friends to play with would be lovely. I’m on ship 2!

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I’m at the apple pen

I’m at the pineapple pen

I’m at the com–bination pen pineapple apple pen

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I am absolutely required to have these sliders like this

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